A reader asked if their Aries partner was so possessed with being on the shipping end of ass play because of their need for control – it’s quite possible and anyone who has been on the receiving end can certainly attest to who’s calling the shots in that scenario. They said that at times their partner seemed not to know if it was enjoyable for them. My suggestion is this (and this is not news even to the anally uninitiated). Lots of lube, lots of patience, and lots of paying attention; you can’t go far wrong if you stick to the lots, lots, and lots formula, whether it’s warm pulsating skin or living latex. Tell them if you’re speaking in tongues then they’re doing it right – Aries or not. And it’s not bad manners mid session or on a position change to ask if it’s all still good. Aries like to control the action but you can still learn to control them…just don’t tell them what you’re doing.